Are you a Sour Single?
- Feb 13, 2017
- 3 min read
Are you a sour single? Like even the smallest bit sour? Like one drop of lemon juice, sour?
Well Gem, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a sour single. Not like a whole concentrated bottle of lemon juice, sour. I'm more like this sweet and tart lemon donut.
Some days I love being single. I get to watch all the chick flicks I want (and yes I do mean those Lifetime movie marathons). I don't have to worry about checking in with anyone (*cough cough* life of an introvert). There are never any disagreements related to the relationship that need to be worked out. There are no mind games being played. I am not worried about being tied down. I am free to be... well... single. But there's more to being single than the sweetness.
Some days I don't love being single. Most notably I don't love being single when the entire day is centered around love. It makes me aware of all the things I am missing not being in a relationship. I don't have someone to binge watch a Netflix series with. Some days can be lonely without a simple "how's your day?" text. While relationships have disagreements, these disagreements more often than not have the potential to make a relationship stronger. There are no mind games, but that also means there are also no fun games being played. While I am not worried about being tied down, I am worrying about when I'll find 'that person.' I might be free to be single, but it doesn't always seem so free.
At this time in my life it seems that almost everyone has their bou. Yet, the only bou I have is from the Caribou down the road. It can be hard not to wish and dream about the future, especially on Valentines Day.
It might seem like everyone's got somebody but me (cue Hunter Hayes), but you are not alone. In fact, every person that is in a relationship around you was single at one point. You are not the first person and you are not the last person to be single. To add, the more I spend time thinking about it the more friends I can think of that are single. Sometimes our mindset can get skewed of the actual reality of things. This is only one portion of your life, remember to embrace it.
Being single has both its pro's can con's, both the good and the bad. However, I think the most important thing to remember is to not get bogged down on these lists of attributes. Single sisters, we need to embrace this time with open arms. It is more than okay to dream about the future, but then also remember how thankful you are for the time in your life now.
So I encourage you to join me this Valentines Day in making these scrumptious Gluten Free Lemon Donuts. Let them act as a symbolic way of saying "my life of single hood has both sweet and tart qualities, but I am choosing not to get bogged down by either of them." I want to look back on this time and think, "wow, I enjoyed my singleness." My life back then was like a lemon donut - sweet and tart combined into one delicious donut.
"The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive, you will see it."
-Thich Nhat Hanh
These delicious donuts were created by Chrystal at Gluten-Free Palate.
Click here for the recipe.
And Remember,
You are a Gem and so loved.
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